tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post5298821611352863277..comments2024-02-25T14:52:03.956-05:00Comments on Knit By God's Hand: Living in the after....Rebecca Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03965781380511208862noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-22979846880026141302018-06-11T16:48:46.243-04:002018-06-11T16:48:46.243-04:003rd testing3rd testingRebecca Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03965781380511208862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-91845939418888372552018-06-11T16:36:03.306-04:002018-06-11T16:36:03.306-04:00testingtestingRebecca Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03965781380511208862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-44990408238622604182018-06-11T16:22:59.646-04:002018-06-11T16:22:59.646-04:00testtestRebecca Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03965781380511208862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-31190203764331947852018-06-11T08:34:43.118-04:002018-06-11T08:34:43.118-04:00im so sorry for your loss. while the hurt and sorr...im so sorry for your loss. while the hurt and sorrow following the death of a loved one never truly goes away, each day gets less and less painful eventually. sending lots of hugs your way.Kathy@MoreCoffeeLessTalkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044005966979731361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-43473077429712032912018-06-08T15:43:24.035-04:002018-06-08T15:43:24.035-04:00Take your time grieving. Take it hour by hour. Tal...Take your time grieving. Take it hour by hour. Talk/blog about your dad and the grief absolutely as much as you need and want to. It’s part of the process and we all love you, support you, and are here for you. Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01155303404223970814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-58424479228187560022018-06-08T15:20:15.994-04:002018-06-08T15:20:15.994-04:00I just read about this on Leslie's blog. I...I just read about this on Leslie's blog. I'm SO, SO sorry, Rebecca. Sending tons of prayers and hugs your way.<br />Jodie's Touch of Stylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16453914318183037853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-23332564845383817502018-06-08T12:06:59.212-04:002018-06-08T12:06:59.212-04:00Oh Rebecca, my heart is breaking for you! So sorry...Oh Rebecca, my heart is breaking for you! So sorry I didn't see this until now. I totally understand everything that you are feeling. How you are grieving so deeply and after the dust settles everyone goes back to normal life and you are left feeling, but what is my normal? Hugs and many many prayers from afar my sweet friend.Foxy's Domestic Sidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17349449371975937570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-35035781087026299362018-06-07T12:17:38.541-04:002018-06-07T12:17:38.541-04:00This is just the hardest thing - it really is. And...This is just the hardest thing - it really is. And you've expressed so many of the same thoughts I had after my mom died. And it's even harder for you because when my mom died I was living in another state, so I didn't have the daily reminder (except that I did think of things to tell her every day). Obviously you will get through this, but it's not going to be easy. Plus grief is so random - even now, 13 years later, grief will bubble up & just knock me over out of the blue. But I like those reminders that I loved my mom very much. The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-22711699066794979012018-06-06T14:59:37.232-04:002018-06-06T14:59:37.232-04:00One day at a time is all you can really do. I thin...One day at a time is all you can really do. I think you're letting your emotions out in the ways you know how - through writing, through checking in with people, through leaning on Ricky and most of all by being there for your family. Sending you lots of love!BLovedBostonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03378765629410526703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-5580399885922720862018-06-06T14:47:25.832-04:002018-06-06T14:47:25.832-04:00It's been a little over a month since my fathe...It's been a little over a month since my father-in-law passed and although our circumstances are different, I can completely relate to so much of this. Everyone says it gets easier with time and maybe it does, but I haven't noticed it yet. It's so hard moving forward and not feeling guilty for it and I know what you mean with seeing others out there being happy and feeling a little envious. Grief is such a hard thing to deal with and especially in our society where talking about death is taboo. Just know that I am praying for you and I hope you find comfort in his memories and the good times. For now that's what I'm holding onto and it really helps. Cara- Kindly Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10923189267727029216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-42691805887511431112018-06-06T08:52:01.961-04:002018-06-06T08:52:01.961-04:00Grief sucks. And death sucks. And moving forward t...Grief sucks. And death sucks. And moving forward to find a new normal sucks too.<br /><br />And I think grief is even harder because it can look so different even from one minute to the next. One minute things could be okay, but the next, you see something, hear something, smell something, and your mind is elsewhere.<br /><br />And the tough thing about all of that is, depending on what sort of minute it is, you may need something different from the people around you. Maybe you just want to cry, or laugh, or share a story, or talk about something totally unrelated.<br /><br />And when people say "Are you okay" they definitely mean well, but it's like am I okay, no. No I am not, and I won't ever be okay in the same way I was okay before. But yes, I did put on clothes and come to work today, so, I guess I am "okay" in the sense that you mean.Jessie Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11217522564709638588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-33648338978126961902018-06-05T18:01:26.784-04:002018-06-05T18:01:26.784-04:00Grief and mourning are SO hard, and the grief that...Grief and mourning are SO hard, and the grief that comes from mourning someone you were close to that was taken unexpectedly (and much sooner than you expected) is, I think, the hardest kind of grief of all. It's been after those unexpected losses that I've had the hardest time going forward, and the grief definitely comes in waves. I lost my nephew unexpectedly over ten years ago, and I'm STILL forcefully struck with grief over it, even now, to the point where I cry my eyes out. We never stop missing those we love, even when they're gone from our presence. And it might be a long time before you feel like really smiling or laughing or feeling lighthearted (though you might act that way). However you grieve, it's all okay. A quote I've often though of by one of my church leaders is, "The only way to take sorrow out of death is to take love out of life." I'm sorry for the hard road you're being asked to travel on right now. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.Torriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00914130332528653162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-36607484697025290242018-06-05T15:15:57.886-04:002018-06-05T15:15:57.886-04:00I am so sorry for your loss. You have a beautiful ...I am so sorry for your loss. You have a beautiful family and reading your posts, I can always feel the warmth and love coming through. There is no wrong way to experience your grief. I am glad you had such a wonderful dad and I hope you take all the time you need and continue to have support. Lots of hugs.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588654905702468164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-77528308321431616542018-06-05T14:43:59.936-04:002018-06-05T14:43:59.936-04:00Even those of us who HAVE gone through losing our ...Even those of us who HAVE gone through losing our dad have trouble imagining what you are going through. Each person and each relationship is so different. My dad was only 63 and he left us in 1989. I still miss him. You are moving through your grief as only you can. It's a journey. Just know that we love you and are here for you, as your friends and family are there for you. Keeping you in my daily prayers!!Terri Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15333024343069943295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-20297565319116707862018-06-05T14:14:13.660-04:002018-06-05T14:14:13.660-04:00I am like you, and I always say something along th...I am like you, and I always say something along the lines of "I cant imagine what you are going through or how it feels." I think grief looks different for everyone and you definitely shouldn't feel judged for how and how long you deal with it. I am sending you hugs and praying for you.Nadinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06920454010509077779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-4607530671747008982018-06-05T13:57:08.489-04:002018-06-05T13:57:08.489-04:00I can't imagine your new normal. I'm so so...I can't imagine your new normal. I'm so sorry your family is going through this kind of shocking grief. Thinking of you and praying for you very often. Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12075708535155080258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-74847215573001225462018-06-05T13:53:48.635-04:002018-06-05T13:53:48.635-04:00Grief has no timeline and you should take whatever...Grief has no timeline and you should take whatever and however long you need to wrap your head and heart around this. We're here for you and thinking of you. Jana @ Jana Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15501814243709445827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-36260837398424333912018-06-05T11:45:28.084-04:002018-06-05T11:45:28.084-04:00There really is no right or wrong way to grieve. ...There really is no right or wrong way to grieve. I'm glad you have so much support in your life and you and your brother can help support your mom. I think everyone understands (or should understand) that you're all doing the best you can at this point to keep moving forward.Chaitalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09118655603196065126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-2532077777361986012018-06-05T11:41:14.374-04:002018-06-05T11:41:14.374-04:00(((HUGS))) It is going to take time and you will n...(((HUGS))) It is going to take time and you will never forget your wonderful Dad. Don't let anyone rush you. Everyone grieves in different ways. Writing is a great way for you to express yourself and your feelings. I am holding you close in my heart and keeping you along with your family in my prayers.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-17969222590687518292018-06-05T11:39:30.237-04:002018-06-05T11:39:30.237-04:00Grieving is so hard. It hurts so much, and I don&#...Grieving is so hard. It hurts so much, and I don't know how to comfort but instead I just want to pray 2 Corinthians 1 for you. Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;<br /><br />4 Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.<br /><br />5 For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ.<br /><br />6 And whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation.<br /><br />I love you sweet sister. Please keep sharing all these precious precious beloved memories of your daddy. Glory is getting closer, and that day of reunion will be so so so sweet.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10997485869965347851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-88890491105757391062018-06-05T11:25:44.755-04:002018-06-05T11:25:44.755-04:00Grieving is a weird, horrible and necessary thing....Grieving is a weird, horrible and necessary thing. Everyone does it differently and the right way for them because there is no universal way to grieve. Some days, everywhere you go and everything you see will remind you of your father and it will break your heart. And other days, everywhere you go and everything you see will remind you of your father and your heart will fill love and laughter. Eventually memories of your father will give you quiet peace and the satisfaction of loving and being deeply loved and the heart pains will lessen, although never completely go away. And I think that's right and proper. It's a sign of love. Much love to you my friend. Tanya @ A Mindful Migrationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12662395965850097235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-25567935599659508962018-06-05T11:03:34.748-04:002018-06-05T11:03:34.748-04:00Oh, I know exactly how you feel. That huge hole i...Oh, I know exactly how you feel. That huge hole in your heart that feels like it will never heal. It will get smaller, but it won't go away. I've surrounded myself in my house with things from their house...things my dad made or things my mom used. My dad was so incredibly lonely after my mom passed away so I can just imagine how your mom is feeling. They would spend hours in the living room, sitting in their chairs across the room from each other watching tv and not talking, but they knew the other was there. I would go over to daddy's after work & many times we'd both fall asleep watching tv, but someone was there with him. I totally get it. It's only been 3 weeks. Take time to grieve. I'm still grieving for both of my parents after almost 4 years and just over 1 year. My mom has visited me several times in my dreams & my dad did for the first time just a few days ago. Listen for the cardinals. Your dad will let you know he's still in your heart and is praying for you. My heart is aching for you and your brother & your mom. Sending you the tightest of bear hugs.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11533317405680450964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-17097569687169942202018-06-05T10:01:57.940-04:002018-06-05T10:01:57.940-04:00Rebecca Jo, I am in near tears because you so eloq...Rebecca Jo, I am in near tears because you so eloquently expressed how you're feeling and how much your dad means to you. I love that he gave you such a funny card like that with the dog. It will be a great memory. And I felt the same way after my grandpa died. I wondered how are people going and doing things right now? Don't they know the world just stopped? I am sending you SO much love and hugs. StephTheBookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05340476943567585965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-61174769402875704482018-06-05T09:43:02.672-04:002018-06-05T09:43:02.672-04:00I'm glad you have this blog as your outlet and...I'm glad you have this blog as your outlet and close friends and family to share your heartache, grief, and moments of joy with. Don't you worry for one second how other perceive your grief! You are allowed to smile and you're allowed to be sad. Those who love you best will keep on loving you through it. And it's also perfectly normal and acceptable to be angry and sad and frustrated that the world keeps on turning while you're curled up under a blanket of sadness. Sometimes it just isn't fair :( My heart and prayers go out to you, friend <3 Audrey Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01593561585985740053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36253142.post-86560905258041417542018-06-05T08:24:31.881-04:002018-06-05T08:24:31.881-04:00I cry every. single. time. I read your posts about...I cry every. single. time. I read your posts about your loving dad. I am so glad that you have your wonderful memories and love for writing to bring you peace and comfort. Still praying for you. Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297382150275089735noreply@blogger.com