When I mentioned a few weeks ago & that I don't care for the Holidays in the middle of a Friday Favorites post - it drew everyone's attention.
It's not that I don't like the holidays, I just don't care for PARTS of them :)
Let me try & explain... & I'll even go one step further & break it out per holiday.
I have my valid reasons apparently.
1. Food Addict's Nightmare. If you have issues with food & over eating, then this day is the WORST! I mean, it's a day meant to eat till you bust and/or so miserable, that all you want to do is roll onto a couch & stay there... until the leftovers are brought back out. Not good for someone like me who is learning portion control & eating healthy. All the cheesy casseroles & pies everywhere? Geez... its a nightmare.
2. All the Dead Turkeys. I am a vegetarian. I am an animal lover. I get people eat meat every day, but something about seeing all these piles of frozen turkey's laying in every aisle of the grocery - it just gags me. & I want to find every turkey farm & set them all free.
3. Too many places to go. This is going to be one of those things where I know this is REALLY a blessing, but it somehow backfires. We have lots of family & friends we love & its hard to be at many places at once. For years, Ricky & I actually would go separate ways on Thanksgiving - he'd go to his family - I'd go to mine. We'd say, 'see you tonight' bringing home left over plates from each other's families. & if we did try to make all the visits, let's revisit #1 - all the food!!! All the eating... oh gosh. You don't want to hurt someone's feeling by not eating when they cooked literally 12 hours....
Now we have family closer with our grandkids down in Nashville, that means some years, we would be out of state during Thanksgiving. It's just hard to make everyone happy & every year, someone ends up getting their feelings hurt. I hate that. So much.
4. All the cooking! Let's back up to that comment in #3 - over 12 hours of cooking. Oh heck no. I know some people love it & have traditions with it. All I see is all the dirty pans that need to be cleaned. This is a whole day event here. All the ingredients needed. All the timing of which dish that goes in the oven & which ones need to set & warm up & not set & warm up. My brain doesn't deal well with this all.
5. Shopping Guilt. This is a new one - but now, stores are open on Thanksgiving & people try to shame you & put up posts that say you should be ashamed if you shop on Thanksgiving - its shoppers like that that make stores open & pull people away from their families. No - its corporate America that makes those decisions. Hobby Lobby does just fine not opening... corporations can make that call for Thanksgiving. I want to shop because sorry, I want the deal. I do feel bad some people that do enjoy Thanksgiving have to leave their celebration to go to work... I get it... but don't guilt others who want to save a little bit of money.
1. All the Decorations! Its not that I mind our decorations - I actually love when they go up. It makes my house so festive & cozy with all the Disney Christmas everywhere.... but it's the taking down. It's so depressing. & a lot of work.... & honestly, every year I feel like I just took it down when its time to pull it out again.
2. Putting up the Christmas Tree Fight. Every year. Never fails. I've said before the hubs & I will get divorced over nothing - except the Christmas tree. It has become better since pre-lit trees are a thing & I've pretty much given him a job of bringing up everything from the basement & leaving until its all done. Don't look at me. Don't touch anything. Just walk away slowly.
3. All the gifts!!!!! .... again - the blessing thing. We have a lot of friends & family in our lives. Yes - its a blessing. But we want people to know we care so we buy lots of gifts. We really love buying for people actually - but I can't begin to tell you how many gifts we buy for everyone. HUNDREDSSSSSSS people... & it adds up so much. I have an app that keeps track of the people we buy for, the gifts we get, & the amount we spend. Now, remember, we have no small children at home celebrating Christmas with us on Christmas morning.... but our bank accounts are down THOUSANDSSSSSS of dollars at the end of Christmas. Like, we could buy a very nice used car every year for what we spend on Christmas.
We have to cut back. We just have to. We can't keep it up. We'd actually like to retire one day & not think when we're out on the streets, "well, they liked that sweater we got them in 2010"...
Someone once told me - ask the person what you got them last year for Christmas & see if they remember... most people don't. That shows how much gifts really matter. I get that. I do.
4. All the wrapping! All those gifts? Who wraps every one of them? Me. Every.One.Of.Them. .... all the boxes. All the paper. All the ribbons. I mean, you can't have an ugly package. I think I make 20 trips to Hobby Lobby for fancy ribbon every year. & don't even ask me how many rolls of tape I end up buying in one Christmas season.
5. All the shopping. I love to shop -Ricky loves to shop. But when you have to shop for people & on a dead line - the pressure builds up. It becomes not fun, but a mission. We usually start out of the house when the sun rises (sometimes before) & get back home at the end of the night with a load of packages.
*Refer back to #4 & #3
6. Men. Sorry guys - but y'alls are the hardest people in the world to buy for. My husband, my dad, my brother, friends, coworkers. If you are a man, you are hard to buy for.
7. No Santa Surprises. It's easier as we've gotten older, but Christmas has always been hard for me as someone who never had children of my own. I mean, its about seeing the magic of Christmas through their eyes. & when you have no small eyes to see it through, it just bites. I mean, I look stupid standing in line with my dogs to get a picture with Santa (though I've asked Ricky to let me do it)... We never had the wake up early to see what Santa left in our home. That's always tough.
|I take yearly pictures of my dog in front of the tree instead of kids|
.... hey, I get it ... there are some amazing things I love about Christmas
- Obviously #1 - the birth of Jesus. I love church service at Christmas more then anything. The Christmas story always hits me right in the heart. & if there is a nativity scene anywhere, I'm stopping & looking. It really is my favorite time of year when it comes to church.
- Spending time with friends & family - we usually make it work better at Christmas then Thanksgiving - we spread it out all through December to make it work - & that's nice.
- Christmas songs. I will sing them all season long & never tire of them. I actually have Casting Crowns & Josh Groban already in my car!
- Christmas TV shows & movies - especially the old ones. I can always sit with a cup of hot chocolate & watch Rudolph & Frosty - no matter how old I am.
- Christmas lights. I want houses all year long to light up for the drive home. With it getting dark early, all the extra lights makes it so much easier to take.
- Day off work! Holla!
I know I sound like the Grinch & Scrooge all wrapped up in one... but this is just all truth.
I always say to Ricky, if we didn't have to buy one gift but just spent time with friends & family, playing games, making cookies, reading the Christmas story together - that's all I would love to do more then anything....
Take the pressure away....
Maybe this will be the year.....