What a special relationship that is.
REAL friends are so hard to come by. And when you have them, they are blessings.
I always say when I see posts on other blogs, or Facebook posts, or Instagram pictures of girls going on a "Girls Weekend" or even a "Girls Night Out", my comment is always the same... "I'm Jealous"
I am a friendly person. I have always had a lot of friends in my life.
But those deep friendship relationship are rare & hard to come by.
I had one super close friend in my life growing up. Stephanie. We were like sisters. We were inseparable. I can't imagine my life without her.
But as you grow from teenagers to adults, you find your spouses & settle into your new life as a wife, distance got in the middle & I lost that friendship that we once had. Now, I'm not saying I lost the friend, but the friendship changes.
When Ricky & I moved to Indiana, we met a couple down the street & we all instantly hit it off as friends. Ironically, the female side of this couple, her name was Stephanie. I just must be drawn to people with that name....
But it was an instant friendship that was dear. One of those relationships where we talked every day, we made plans for every weekend, we found each other at one of our houses a few times a week. Knitting at mine, dinner at hers. Stephanie knew better then to expect me to cook. Real friendships can handle truth like that.
I lost that friendship to liver cancer.
& I have many amazing friends in my life who have come into my life since Stephanie left this world. I am blessed with amazing women who have become my friend since then. Women who let me love on their family as they have loved on mine. Women who still call or text or message me to see how life is going, how my parents or grandbabies are, what the latest news is.
But I always say I miss that girlfriend relationship where you vent out your day every evening on the phone.... where you laugh about the funny things your husband did ... where you know you have someone who will go see that girly movie with you that your husband just dreads seeing as soon as the preview comes on.
Those friendships are so precious.
I don't know if it's just me or if it's just the way social media works.
I always tell my brides not to expect their wedding to look like something on Pinterest. Because on Pinterest, you are seeing the ONE good picture of a LOT of weddings for one full day.
Maybe I keep seeing people's pictures of girlfriends, & outings & hang outs & maybe it just seems like I'm the only one who is waiting for a friend to come pick me up & go shopping....
I saw where Melanie Shankle (AKA Big Mama) has written a new book about friendships. & first of all, if you haven't ever read any of her books, you MUST. She's hilarious. and real.
|Pulled from Big Mama's Site|
But I saw the video of the book & I instantly started crying at my desk.
Good thing I have a head cold. My eyes have been watering all week so everyone just assumed it was my sinuses kicking in again.
I'll totally read this book, because I do know what an amazing gift deep friendships are & how special & precious they are....
But it makes my heart ache a little as well....
Not really a point to my post today, but to just remind you to call your friend tonight. Laugh about something. Make plans to hang out. Hold tight to the relationship you have with them. Life changes way too quickly sometimes.
& if anyone is named Stephanie, give me a call. I have a feeling we'll be instant friends. :)