21 years today, I became Mrs.Vincent.
That just blows my mind...
I've actually been with Ricky more than half of my life at this point. We dated for 3 years before we got married, so I was just days away from turning 21 when we started dating. I actually think my 21st birthday was our 'official' first day... ahhhh... - & I am going to be 45 this year. So yeah... more than half of my life, this red head man has been by my side. Crazy.
It's so funny how I can't remember what I did on Monday, but I can remember October 28, 1995 so clearly.
....It was a cloudy, gloomy, sprinkling day. Brides - don't freak out when it rains on your wedding day. They always say rain is good luck. I'll stand up as proof of that.
....My bridesmaid & my brother's girlfriend at the time is a hair dresser... she went to do my hair in a french twist & for some reason, she totally couldn't get it to work. I sat at my kitchen table with her trying to get it right for HOURS. It actually became funny. & obviously, it all worked out in the end.
....I rode to the church with her in her car & played over & over again Twila Paris, "God is in Control"... that's a throwback song for you Christian music fans.
....They had all the girls crammed in one room & it was so hot, I thought I was going to pass out. We finally got the clear to go in the reception area so I could breath.
|I see this picture & see my teeth haven't shifted to a crooked mess like they are now.|
...Ricky hates getting his picture taken so wedding pictures were a true torture for him. The whole day kind of was with attention being focused on him. He was a trooper though.
... I never saw Ricky before the wedding, but he told me later someone opened the door to the room he was in & he saw me. He was just anxious to see my dress because I had him scared to death it was something crazy in style. I had him convinced it was short & something totally out of the 80's.
... I still to this day think my dress is the most amazing dress in the world. I think every bride should feel that way about their dress.
... I also loved my veil. For some reason, it reminded me of Priscilla Presley's veil... & I'm not even a huge Elvis fan so I dont know why I always think of that. & yes, I wore it down over my face walking down the aisle. #oldschooltradition
... Our photographers were a married couple - who were arguing the whole time. & the wife was flirting with my brother the entire night. How messed up is that? Plus, I look back at wedding pictures now & cringe at them - especially doing wedding photography myself. I mean, there are probably 5 pictures of Ricky & I after the wedding together & there are probably 2 poses. Only 2 pictures of us dancing. No pictures of me getting ready, or anything with my bridesmaids except one picture of us all up front together. I want to do my wedding pictures over again please.
The photographers didn't even get any pictures of Ricky & his family. I just happened to find this picture in an album of prints people had taken on their own. I guess I need to remember this was the day before digital photography. Everything was film. A different world.
|Pictures with Ricky's brother in them now just seem more precious|
... I so loved having a candle light ceremony. It made it easier for Ricky to have it darker in there & it was just the coziest feeling. I am such a sucker for candle light anyways. I can remember standing up there looking at Ricky & just the warm lights from candles made it all so beautiful.
... I laughed the entire wedding ceremony. Like laughed hysterically. Does this surprise anyone?
People thought my back shaking at the front was me sobbing crying, but those that knew me well - they knew I was laughing. What can I say? I was a happy bride.
... I loved my wedding cake because it had black flowers on it. I was all about the black & white theme. Funny thing, this wasn't even the cake Ricky & I had picked out. My mom had gone back to the cake person & had them add in the tiers to give it height. I actually loved it more. Carrot cake was our cake of choice - Ricky's favorite.
... Our first dance was to Dan Hill's "Never Thought" ... though we did have Steven Curtis Chapman sung during our wedding & had KISS played during our cake cutting.
... I didnt get one bite of food the entire night. I can remember after the wedding, we took everything back to my parents house & I was ravenous with the food. That's a long day with not eating. Chalk that up to being young. It wouldn't happen 21 years later.
It's so funny to look back at pictures of the day & see how young we were. It feels like yesterday but also like a lifetime ago.
Crazy to think we've been married for over 2 decades now.
A blessing to know that this is the man God brought into my life to share this dance with... & we'll dance on for a lifetime still to go
Happy 21st Anniversary to you Mr. Vincent