Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Same words... different meaning

I dont think we realize the power in our words...

A coworker of mine needs to be out next week to be with her husband...

The timing falls in the time of a payroll that is very time consuming...

when she's not here, I do it...

I dont mind doing it.. it makes my day so busy & overloaded, but that means that time flies by & before I know it, its time to go home

... yipee for busy days...

But when she told me she was going to be out, she said,

"You have to keep it up & have it ready to be sent by Wednesday"

... yes, there was emphasis on the 'have'... & we're talking about delivering these words not in a friendly, kind tone.... at all...

OK... I expected to do the work... no one else can do it ... that's not the issue at all

It was just the way it was said

...& now my attitude about it is just grumpy...

...those words, "You HAVE to"...

does that throw anyone else off?

Like, if she said, "Could you help me out & do the payroll?"

what a difference that would make...

...& even if a 'please' or 'thank you' were in there?  Knock me over!!!

I know its my job - & I'd do it regardless... but like I said, its about the words that were used & the way it effected my attitude about it.

If I was approached nicely & with courtesty, it changes the way I feel about it...

But as I try to learn from things in life, I thought about this ....

How many times in life do people say things so coursely without even thinking?

Seeming to be 'ordering', instead of 'asking'...
Seeming to be in charge, instead of wanting to work together...
Seeming to be selfish, instead of caring about others...

I know it's at work a lot...

but how about even in our own homes
How we speak to our spouses, our children, our family members...

Do we speak without thinking how it really sounds?
Do we realize how much it affects the reaction & attitude of others?

It's really opened up my eyes on how I say things...

Today, I challenge you on how you speak, what you say, & most importantly, HOW you say it....

A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:1


If you can - watch this video... its under 2 minutes... & so powerful & a great reminder of this whole point....






9 comments:

  1. I've seen that video before but it always get me each and every time.
    I'll take you up on your challenge, both at work and at home. Home might be tricky though. Those kids drive me to drink sometimes.
    Okay, it's Wednesday, go get your payroll out. You MUST do it! Oh, I'm sorry. Geez, I'm blowing this challenge already!
    Your Friend, m.

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  2. Wow, what a touching video ... and it certainly drives home the point. Excellent reminder.

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  3. I have watched that video quite a few times and it moves me every single time I see it. You are right on the money with this post, my friend! Great lesson for us all!

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  4. I love the video! Keith and I have been talking a lot lately about it not being what you say but how you say it...you have such a knack for putting my thoughts into words haha thank you!!

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  5. Amen sister. The power of words, is...well...powerful!

    Good reminder for today!

    NOW GO GET THAT PAYROLL DONE! ha! :)

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  6. I know what you mean. I sometimes find that I "order" Chris around at home, when it would be so easy to simply add a "please" in front of what we say. We've both been more conscious of our words now that we have a little guy around who's paying close attention!

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  7. oh i love this and so true. a kind and simple tone just makes the world of a difference.

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  8. great clip.. I read your comment today.. Your poor Mom.. I hope I do not have it monthly.. Hugs to her. Have a great night..

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  9. Thanks for sharing this. Think I'm going to show it to my students.

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