We'll be celebrating our 19 year anniversary in just 2 months... I'm already trying to push for a Disney trip next year to celebrate our 20th. It's just called for I think.
But being a photographer at weddings & seeing all things Pinterest in weddings, I see how different is was when I walked down the aisle in 1995.
Here's some things I noticed....
We never had Save the Date cards
It really is such a cute idea. But isn't that a lot of extra postage? I think it is a cute way to start spreading the word on when the wedding is going to be. But things spread quickly more on social media... I would do the pictures for it, but spread the word on Facebook & Instagram... & then let people wait anxiously to see if they are getting invited. Build up some anticipation.
We never had Couple's Showers
Bridal showers were just for the bride back in my day. Ricky would sit at home & wait for me & my mom to pull up & he would unload the car & then we'd have our own little private shower as he would go through everything we got. It was like Christmas morning for him. Ricky's not a big 'in the lime light' kinda person anyways so I'm sure he didn't mind this one bit, but I have been to couple showers now & love that the groom is there & that guys are invited to the showers.
We didn't have gift giving to ask for bridesmaids / MOH
I really love the cute ways that they have all over Pinterest on how to ask your friends to shell out lots of money for a dress they'll never wear again. Some of the ways are so fancy & creative. This is for some creative people ... or some really rich people. I've seen where the bride gets necklaces or jewelry & have the question engraved on that, or on the box somewhere. It's definitely a cool keepsake between friends.
We never had Choreographed dances
I would have been ALL OVER THIS. Ricky is thankful every night in his prayers this wasn't a thing back in the 90's. From dancing DOWN the aisle (my grandmother would have had a heart attack) to amazing reception dances with the whole bridal party? I think this is fantastic! I love when I see such neat dances when I photograph a wedding. I had one father that did the best dance with his daughter. At the end, I asked how long they practiced... she said he just dances like that. It wasn't even planned. Even better! I totally could have pulled off a Dirty Dancing dance routine in the 90's...
These next two things really hit me in the photographers heart...
We never had Engagement Pictures
Nope - wasn't really a thing then. You didn't go out & get pictures of the two of you before the wedding day. If you did, it wasn't like the fun pictures that people do now. I love that people use engagement pictures & make beautiful guest books with them. We had the same ones that I think people use at funerals.
Wedding pictures were MUCH different
Now that I do wedding photography & I take pictures of the day, I am so jealous when I hand over wedding pictures. I want my day captured. Wedding pictures then were basically you standing in the front of the church with your bridal party, your family & your groom. That was it. Honestly, my wedding pictures were like 75 pictures. That's everything. Wedding, reception, family pictures. All in a grey album with plastic cover. Stupid. I want the beautiful moments of getting ready, & the smiles between friends & the details of the day. I love wedding pictures of today.
One thing that may be a blessing that they didn't have then?
We didn't have Pinterest
I love Pinterest. But mercy, Pinterest gives some expectations. People see all these amazing things about weddings on there & they want them all. I remind my brides that you are looking at the one good picture from someone's entire day. Put a bunch of people's ONE PICTURE in one place & it looks like everyone's wedding day is perfect. Not have the expectations that every thing is going to turn out Pinterest Perfect. People can get a little obsessed with it... #iamtalkingaboutmyself
In the end, I still loved my wedding... & still am in love with the man I married... the only thing that matters
So did you use any of these things for your wedding?
If you've been married forever like me, what didn't you have that is out there now?